2 y 4 m. I do remember it being a huge pain around about the age you're struggling with though. when she was younger I'd jiggle and rock her on my legs with this as noise in the background

We also did the breastfeeding until sleep thing, but at some point it stopped working and my wife wanted to stop breastfeeding , so that went out the window. challenging times. if you have a healthcare network that offers support and advise, ask them or your pediatrician as well. If you're going to therapy, maybe your therapist has some advice; one I had, has a few specialisations, including child development, and she gave us advise from time to time.