Which movie was it for you? (where the actions of the bad guys were actually relatable?)
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IIRC this was partially elaborated on in Matrix 4, where
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machines harness the psychological stress/torture of Neo and Trinity by putting them in a situation where their lives are entirely different, yet they occasionally interact and subconsciously remember each other.
It's the Misery Nexus we were warned about.