untorquer comments on Girls, stop enticing men

[–] untorquer@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (2 children)

We definitely make it hard on parents. I'm making no conjecture on such a societal difference would impact parental workloads. That's another conversation worth having though.

That said, i think it should be pretty easy not to tease or shame children for being friends with the other sex. And gender neutral clothing costs the same as gendered clothing so 🤷

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[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 2 points 1 year ago (1 child)

That said, i think it should be pretty easy not to tease or shame children for being friends with the other sex.

I think a lot of parents of young girls are terrified that their kids will be attacked by young boys. So they cloister them deliberately.

A lot of parents of young boys are terrified that they'll turn out gay. So they pressure them to be toxically masculine.

And gender neutral clothing costs the same as gendered clothing

They're significantly cheaper, by and large. But by the time you're dealing with teenagers, they're largely dressing themselves.

Try to explain to a 15 year old that he shouldn't be emulating hyper-masculine/feminine media personalities.

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[–] untorquer@lemmy.world 1 point 1 year ago*

Parents biases/behaviors impact their children for sure!

Again, I'm talking about how the teenage years can benefit from a different approach in earlier childhood than traditional norms. Teens are learning to be adults, they need autonomy and space to explore themselves. I only commented that they have the capacity to understand consent.

E.g. a 6yo doesn't benefit from being dressed in pink or robin egg blue, and children pick up on this stuff even if unconsciously because the rest of society reacts to it.

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