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‘House Of The Dragon’ Star Olivia Cooke Says Women Are Still Being Branded “Difficult” For Setting Boundaries In Sex Scenes (deadline.com)
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[+] -33 points 1 year ago (5 children)

She's complaining about being asked to do the job she agreed to do. Would you read an article about me being uncomfortable with handling heavy pieces of metal as a welder or machinist? No. It's expected of the job. You either do it, or you don't.

If you don't want to do an intimate scene, say so. Don't complain about being asked. If you feel pressure against saying no, or if you're afraid of discrimination for asserting your opinion, then you have a problem with the job you've agreed to do, not the work.

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  • [–] [S] 26 points 1 year ago (3 children)

    In an interview with The i Paper, Cooke said actresses “often get labelled ‘difficult’ or ‘a bitch’ for speaking up” when they are uncomfortable with intimate performances.

    Cooke said good intimacy coordinators become a “voice” for women who are hesitant about filming requests, particularly when actresses are “just starting out and don’t have the vocabulary to say what they’re not comfortable with.”

    You're making a lot of assumptions here. She's not saying she accepted sex scenes for her character in a contract, then refused to do them later on.

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  • [+] -18 points 1 year ago (2 children)

    What hint could she have had that a Game of Thrones spinoff MIGHT have a sex scene? There is no possible way she could have possibly known about an IP that's been absolutely gigantic for going on 10 years. What an absolute blindside. /s

    Self advocating is a skill learned as a toddler, not as a full grown adult in industry being asked to do industry work. I'm saying she accepted an acting role and is complaining about being asked to act. Not that she couldn't set her own boundaries, or that she hasn't. I fervently hope she has, in fact.

    However, giving yourself anxiety about maybe being asked something in the future and having to make a decision is a non-starter. Make a decision either way and stick with it. Have the confidence in yourself to make a choice. Changing your mind later is also a choice, but that one will kind of make you a bit of a bitch, and even then only for allowing yourself to be pushed around.

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  • [–] [S] 10 points 1 year ago* (1 child)

    What hint could she have had that a Game of Thrones spinoff MIGHT have a sex scene? There is no possible way she could have possibly known about an IP that's been absolutely gigantic for going on 10 years. What an absolute blindside. /s

    She isn't complaining that she was asked to do a sex scene. She's noting that some parts of sex scenes can be uncomfortable for women, and that intimacy co-ordinators are good at alleviating and helping with concerns there and recognising requests from the women in the scene.

    Self advocating is a skill learned as a toddler, not as a full grown adult in industry being asked to do industry work. I'm saying she accepted an acting role and is complaining about being asked to act. Not that she couldn't set her own boundaries, or that she hasn't. I fervently hope she has, in fact.

    Quote where she said that she objects fundamentally to sex scenes.

    Intimacy co-ordinators are not some suddenly new thing. They are all over the industry now.

    And you're literally doing what she complained about. You are demonstrating her point.

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  • [–] 17 points 1 year ago

    Yeah, and the parts that you're missing are

    a) "If you don't want to do an intimate scene, say so." Did you read anything at all? It's the entire point, women can't do that without being branded "difficult on set"

    b) its not about not having intimate scenes at all, it's about being able to put any boundary at all.

    c) it's always the women that have to do the more "interesting" scenes. Have men do the exact same scenes in the exact same way with the whole crew around and let's see how comfortable they are.

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