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Yeah it sucks i dont like this masking part neither. Usually if i overthink about these things, it means that these people are not comfy for me and I just let them go. You absolutely dont have to meet all their emotional needs if you don't have energy or interest for this. I cleared a lot of people from my cirle recently and Im sooo relieved now because I can ignore them freely for days and then respond just with random shitpost meme and its so liberaring because noone gets upset (and they do the same bc they have adhd too lol)

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    You can try to start to ignore your friends on purpose (if you have enough confidence). You can even talk to them about it like look i have a problem with reading messages and responding to them so I want to try to separate these two phases so please dont be angry with me if i won't respond you in the same very instant. If they are true friends they will understand.

    Also usually when I choose to ignore someone it's not really that important and it means that it's okay to forget about it - at the end of the day what stimulates us is urgency and if it's urgent there is no way we will ignore it. So if I,can afford to ignore it its highly likely that you can give a fuck about it for some time.

    Also, you will be notified by the chat visually some time after when you open the app, or the person will write you again themselves, or you will want to write something to this person yourself, or you can even set the message to "unread" as a reminder to yourself, so be chill

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    Yes. What works for me is to differentiate between reading a message and replying to it. I made myself a rule "fuck it, now im gonna just read the message and only then i decide whether i want to respond or not". Usually when I open the message I get motivation to respond it. If I don't want to respond still after reading then I tell the person that I will respond later and then think why I didn't want to respond. Is it boring? Is it my low energy? Is it that the person I'm speaking to is not comfy? If its because of them, I try to talk about it like look im sorry i know that youd like to speak about X but im not really enjoying these things so lets do something about it. Or just cut the communication if Im not interested in this person anymore

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    Saw the pasta frittata idea here but it started sticking to the bottom, so I ended up with just tomato and mushrooms pasta, still tasted good haha

    Recipe: Put pasta to boil, while frying onions, mushrooms and cherry tomatoes with spices (i add smoked paprika, black pepper, parsley, basil and chili flakes), then add a little bit of white wine. Once pasta is finished and the vegetables‘ juice is dried, add eggs to the pasta, mix it up a bit and then add them to the vegetables

    I'm not a great cook so any advice is welcome

     

    I cannot function without stress. I don't work better under stress, I can ONLY work if I'm stressed. So all my life I'm rushing and hurrying artificially even if there is no objective reason to do that. This model was working great for me all my life until now when I'm in my twenties and my body is collapsing with GERD, proctological issues, bruxism, headaches, tinnitus, fibromyalgia... They say, "Oh, you just have to do things based on novelty and interes" but bitch you cannot make EVERYTHING interesting and new. When I start to give a fuck about everything and relax I end up doing no shit. And honestly I don't know what to do. The meds they were giving me just cause the same stress artificially elevating my noradrenaline and the evening crush is even worse compared to days when I'm stressing myself on my own means. I feel myself in a "stress yourself out and die or don't do anything and die as well" situation... Psychiatrist and meds, psychologist, supplements, weekly meetings in ADHD support group, physical activity, good sleep, good nutrition, all these ergonomical lifehacks like "pomodoro", "make the task easy", "just divide the task into subtasks", "reward yourself", "body double", "listen to podcasts while cleaning" etc... All this shit is not working. There is no brand new method left that I haven‘t tried and I'm deeply frustrated. I can only stress myself out until my body completely desintegrates. Just venting

     
    1. This isn't a rental car - it's privately owned.

    küskinei mäntätöt kömmi, kosti inteimät a

    küski-nei mäntä-töt kömmi, kosti intei-mät a

    transport-CONJ nearby-time REF.NEG, ASEX DEM-nearby EMO.CNTR

    "(This) transport and temporal nearbyness do not relate, someone nearbying this (transport) in fact"

    1. Life is meaningless if it begins well but ends badly.

    öötista tilämännisin, tottoó män'iütte, ii pökikömmi näiöhta

    ööti-sta tilä-männi-sin, totto-ó män-iütte, ii pöki-kömmi näi-öhta

    moving-ABST beginning-AMA-TOP, time-CONJ.PSTR liking-OPP, DM heading-PRV sadness-PL

    "Speaking of movingness starting good, (if) time passes and (it's) anti-good, so (it‘s) without goal, very sad"

    I use gloss abreviations from conworkshop conworkshop.com/grammar_forms.php

     

    Fucking morons. I’ve been looking for a new apartment and messaging a ton of real estate agents lately, and WhatsApp just decided to block me for 'suspicious activity.' They already restricted my account a couple of days ago, and I almost missed an apartment viewing because of it. And I‘ve already done that for three moves before with zero issues. I live in a country where literally all communication with real estate agents happens on WhatsApp, so now I’ll have to go out tomorrow and get a whole new phone number if they don’t unblock me or Im gonna end up on the street. Fucking morons. Fuck you, Crapsapp, and your piece-of-shit messenger

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