[–] [S] 2 points 2 days ago (1 child)

Thank you. I agree that there is no wrong way to speak but I feel like there are wrong ways to communicate. I can spend hours asking loved ones questions and listening to their thoughts etc, but I’ve noticed that most don’t ever ask me as many questions as I ask them. They never seem as interested or even as capable of understanding me. I feel like I make an effort to truly understand people, or at the very least to give myself of an understanding of what they’re presenting to me, in ways that are never reciprocated. For example, I have friends I communicate with using very crass language with, as our main relationship is casual with no commitments. I have friends that I share a common affiliation and goals with that are essentially pseudo-coworkers, but the job was school.
Idk I’ve just been feeling lonelier than I ever have before and I was curious what I could learn by sharing my thoughts. I feel embarrassed by how much these replies mean to me but I also feel grateful for any genuine engagement.

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    I come from a family with fairly rural roots. My parents were the only ones among their siblings to pursue college, and they raised me with an immense appreciation for education and the opportunities it brings. I currently hold a Masters degree in engineering and would like to pursue Law or an MBA in the future. My academic experience and qualifications are a significant part of who I am as an adult. As I continue to grow, I’ve noticed that it becomes harder to connect with some loved ones who are less educated and ultimately less adept at thinking critically and having discussions. I find that ideas, that to me are obvious, sometimes require significant effort from others to appreciate the full depth. Furthermore, I have also found that on average people are not interested in connecting with one another as deeply as I’m interested. For example, if I ask a question, I truly want to know the answer, I’m not just queuing up my own thoughts as response. I always try to be poetic and gracious when explaining these feelings because I’d imagine this would be received better than saying “I think people are dumb and hard to connect with”, but that’s how I feel a lot of times in plain English. I am interested in learning better ways to maintain relationships with people I may have these feelings my about.

    [–] 3 points 2 months ago (1 child)

    I respect that position and if the community is consistent with this philosophy I look forward to engaging. Im honestly a little embarrassed with how often I default to GPT, but doing research almost feels more cumbersome now. I typically start with LLMs and check their sources rather than raw source hunting.

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    I joined lemmy after severe frustration with other platforms. It feels like genuine online human forums that are devoid of bots simply do not exist anymore. It also feels like people are more ok with understanding less and less about the world around them, so long as they have an echo chamber in their phone that aligns with their worldview. Is lemmy actually a better environment? You’d think that if you care enough to end up here that you also care enough to notice the world around us dramatically changing. I’m not looking for an answer or an action, just an acknowledgment that the world feels to be on a downward spiral.

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